How Do You Define Infertility?

Let's give the topic a little time to sink in. Answer truthfully while you are doing that.

We have various views on infertility but the simplest would simply be when a couple finds it difficult to conceive. I'll try not to use plenty medical jargon so we get the message.

Truth is a lot and I mean a lot of couples (married or unmarried) are facing this. Some are in denial, some see it as a curse, some are unbothered, some are confused. Very many reactions.

By definition, infertility is when a couple has tried to conceive for at least six months of uninterrupted and constant sex (usually 2-3 times weekly) especially every other day during a woman's fertile window. Emphasis on uninterrupted and constant sex.

Another term 'fertile window', let me break that down too. This is the period during a menstrual cycle when the woman releases the egg from the ovaries in preparation for fertilization with the sperm cell.

A lot of things can stop this from happening and they affect both sexes equally. This means it is not a 'woman problem'. I'll list a couple

1. Anovulation - absence of ovulation

2. Diseases - PCOS, Cancer, Fibroids, UTIs, STIs

3. Sperm count, shape, movement

4. Anatomical changes - fallopian tubes, sperm duct

5. Hormonal changes and the list goes on.

Most times, couples are reluctant to go for checks and examinations until the situation is dire but my professional advice is that you do as soon as possible. The issue might be a very minor one and you have that bundle of joy you want but ignoring signs may also be very detrimental.

There are now various ways medicine can help conceive and this doesn't change the fact that you are a great mum or dad and your baby won't love you any less. A lot of people are scared of the stigma that comes with Assisted Reproduction, but in truth does it really matter?

When your baby comes, you would forget all the pain and stress you had to pass through and truth is that it is never easy for anyone.

If you try all and it is still not unsuccessful (very rare cases), there is the option of adoption. Every child gives love when given, all they need is an enabling environment.

To people who have had it 'easy', when you see a struggling couple, do not judge or become womb checkers. Pray silently for them.

Important to note is that one can have fertility issues even after previous child birth(s).

I'll end with this, the word says ' there shall be no one miscarrying or barren in your land' Exodus 23:26.

Drop your questions, comments, experiences in the comment box.

Cheers,

Nessa